I’ve come to the conclusion that everything that happens to us in life is a lesson. All the loss, the heartache, the betrayal, the boredom, the feeling of loneliness, the struggle to figure out your purpose, it comes along with being human. Just like there are times in life where things feel new and exciting. We experience many moments, perhaps even periods of happiness, of belonging and being around people who love and accept us for ourselves. And then unexpectedly, someone we love passes away, or a friend or family member disappoints us, sometimes it even breaks our heart. But we heal and hopefully we learn. If we don’t learn the first time, life takes us on a path of repeating the same mistakes over and over again until we do learn. Sometimes you don’t even notice that you are repeating the same negative patterns and when you finally do, it is like an awakening.
I’ve learned that no amount of tears will bring back a loved one that has passed away. The only thing we can do is to live our best life without them. We honor their memory in that way. They never really leave us, they are always in our hearts, but we do have to move on. Everyone has a different timeline for grieving and we have to also respect and accept that. Everyone has their own process and journey through the dark, empty hallways of grief.
I’ve learned that although I love my family, my friends and people in general, I don’t care to have disingenuous relationships.
I’ve learned to accept and love myself for who I am. I’ve learned that certain traditions that were the fabric of my family no longer serve me, but that there are others that will always be apart of me. I’ve learned that I have deep faith in a higher power and the ability to achieve anything I set my mind on. I’ve learned that sometimes things that hurt you the most teach you the greatest Life lessons.
Spend some time self-reflecting, what is it that you have learned during your most difficult times?
Words bring out the best or the worst in us. You can uplift people or tear them down with words. You can empower or disempower both yourself and those you share words with. And that is why it is so important to pay close attention to our words.
Words are seeds that do more than blow around. They land in our hearts and not the ground. Be careful what you plant and careful what you say. You might have to eat what you planted one day.-unkown
We are all human and lose control of ourselves from time to time but for the little humans we are raising, it’s imperative that they hear words that encourage, uplift and even heal. So the next time you have something to say, speak with intention. It all goes back to being mindful.
You have to decide whether you are going to be the leader in your own life or an extra in somebody else’s life. Take charge. Make a conscious effort to change what you don’t like about your life. Be grateful for what you do have.
Sit in contemplation everyday and meditate about what will bring you happiness. Then take the first step to make it better. It’s not easy or simple but it’s a good place to start, one step at a time.
If you want to get in better shape…take the first step by eating better and moving your body..
If you want to improve your marriage…take the first step by having an open dialogue, spending time together or even seeing a marriage counselor… take a step to change it for the better.
If you are feeling a void in your life, you have to first find out what it is that you are missing. Take the steps it takes to look within yourself. Once you find out what it is then you can move forward.