Recently I was talking to my cousin about the amount of time he allows his two-year old to be in front of the screen. This started a conversation about how I don’t let my 10-year old watch any television during the week. Our conversation turned into whether or not the amount of time in front of the screen makes a negative impact. This prompted me to put some research into the subject and find out what the professionals suggest. I really always went to my sister, a speech therapist and my go to guru for what I should and should not allow my daughter. I trust and respect her input and her knowledge.
So first, here is what screen time means, watching television, being on computers, laptops, smartphones and tablets.
I found out that too much screen time has been linked to health problems in kids including obesity and emotional problems. Experts say using media while in the classroom can be helpful, but too much use outside school decreases academic performance. Using it at bedtime has been shown to disrupt sleep. Technology can also get in the way of family time. As with anything in life balance is key.
Here is a family media use plan that is recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics.
Mealtimes should be screen-free.
Homework should be done without any electronics.
If homework requires a computer, have kids work on it in the kitchen or other common area.
Don’t use electronics during the school week; this will help avoid creating a dynamic where kids rush their schoolwork to get to their screen time.
Have kids earn screen time by equal time spent on physical activity or chores.
Make bedtime screen-free.
Here are the limits of screen time for kids in different age groups according to experts:
Ages 0-2, no screen time
Ages 2-3, 30 minutes per day
Ages 3-5, 1 hour per day
Ages 5-6, 1 and a half hours per day
Ages 6-12 2 hours per day
So now we know that too much screen time is harmful, but it’s important to also think about what our kids are doing online. Content matters! We can use screen time to learn, create and challenge ourselves or simply to veg out. It’s important that our children’s screen time emphasizes the first three.
Obviously technology is here to stay and we want our kids to thrive in this digital world. They can do this with our support and involvement. Start a conversation on the risks of technology use and how much screen time Is too much.
Good luck, they aren’t going to like it now but they will thank you later in life.
Let me love you a little more before you’re not little anymore. I want you to be my little girl forever but at the same time I’m excited about all the great things you will do in the life. In the meantime I cherish every minute I have with you because I know it will all end way too soon.
You will have a newborn for a month…
An infant for a year…
A toddler for two years…
A preschooler for two years..
A child for five years…
A preteen for three years..
A teenager for five years..
And then they are off to college and life.
Be mindful and present in what you do with the years that you have with your children.
They are few. And then you’ll have to let them go. So until then, listen to them when they want to talk, hold them tight when they want a hug. Play with them even when your tired. Read to them, take in their innocence and show them that everything they do interests you. Breathe in their sweet smell, love them. Take note of how very lucky you are to have them and pay attention to how much they teach you. Appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had.
If you’ve ever tried Yoga, you have already felt the benefits of it. Why not try it for your children? My ten-year old has been taking yoga from the very beginning. I first exposed her to it when she was just an infant. We took Mommy and me yoga together. Since then, she has been practicing yoga on and off for years. I also practice meditation with her.
I recently signed her up for a series of yoga classes that my friend teaches right in my town. Both Yoga and mindfulness have been shown to improve physical and mental health in children.
Yoga can be fun and beneficial for kids. It improves balance, strength and endurance. In fact, research has already shown that yoga can improve focus, memory, self-esteem, academic performance, classroom behavior and can even reduce anxiety and stress in kids.
Another benefit of yoga is self-awareness. Through this practice kids begin to listen to their internal cues and emotions. By shifting self-awareness inward, a buffer forms between the yoga student and the many negative outside influences that promote poor body images.
Thousands of schools across the country are now offering yoga. If your school hasn’t implemented the practice yet, you can always find one in your neighborhood. So go ahead and look for it at a studio near you. You will see for yourself just how great it can be for you and your child!
Forgiveness is the smell that Lavender gives out when you tread on it.-Mark Twain
Every second of every day is an opportunity to be grateful. Grateful for the air we breathe, the beauty that surrounds us, our health, the children we are fortunate enough to raise, our loved ones, our friends. Every situation in life good or bad gives us an opportunity to grow and to be grateful. Even in the worst of times we can find something to be thankful about. Live this way and you will see your life change for the positive.
Here are some other ways to live a positive life
Spend time getting to know yourself
Appreciate what you have
Accept and love yourself
See the positive in every situation
Live in the moment
Travel to new places
Stop worrying about the future
Spend quality alone time with your spouse
Enjoy every second of your children, they grow fast
If you are lucky enough to still have your parents, spend time with them
Make time for friends that want to spend time with you
Be a positive role model for your children by living authentically
Teach kindness and compassion by practicing it yourself
Do something for others on a daily basis, you will be surprised how much happiness this will bring you
Keep on learning, a new language, knitting, dancing, cooking, something that will keep you reaching for goals
Take time to make new friends and reconnect with old ones
Forgive, love and let go
Stay away from negative people
Live your dreams and take risks, life is happening now
Connect with your source, learn to meditate, pray
In all things in nature there is something of the marvelous -Aristotle
Take time to be present, stop and smell the flowers.
In life we have a lot of expectations. We expect to grow up and find the perfect job. We expect to meet the right person, get married, have children and live happily ever after. We expect to have certain friends in our lives forever. We expect to be able to change people. We expect people to love as we do, to have the same heart as we do. We expect too much.I’ve learned that expectations lead to disappointments. It’s a heartbreaking experience. Instead of expecting life to go a certain way, it’s better to live in what’s happening. Take every disappointment as a lesson learned. It teaches you something about the person involved or even about yourself. Expect nothing and appreciate everything in life. Sometimes the most difficult lessons to learn are the ones you need to learn the most. It may surprise you and force you to move in the direction that will bring you happiness.
So be at peace, expect nothing, appreciate everything and live the life that you want. No exceptions!
They are the apple of our eye, our sweet little girls. My child and most of her friends have now reached double digits. They are no longer little girls, soon they will blossom into lovely young ladies.It’s our job to empower them to grow up feeling secure in themselves. Powerful girls learn to take action, making positive choices about their own lives and doing positive things for others. Here are some ways that many parenting experts say will help us raise powerful girls….Encourage her to pursue a passion.Let her have a voice in making decisions.Let her solve issues on her own rather than fixing things for her.Encourage her to go beyond her comfort zone, to take physical risksEncourage your daughter to participate in team-building activities or join organizations that rely on teamwork.
Be honest with her.Give her time to just play!
Having close friends that are like-minded and most importantly kind is an important part of her growing up. Help them foster positive, loving relationships.Let her know you love her because of who she is, not because of what she weighs or how she looks.
.Allow her to disagree.Make time to listen to her on a regular basis.Listen more, talk less.Limit your daughter’s exposure to the media and popular culture.Talk with her about her body and sex in ways appropriate to her age and your values. Yes, it’s really time to do that!Keep her active.
Be the person you want her to be. Love yourself so that she can love herself too.Help foster and flourish her relationships with a powerful women in your family, like an aunt or grandmother.Most importantly, don’t forget to stop and really enjoy this special time with them. Enjoy them!
Shenpa is Tibetan and it defines obsessive feelings and urges you just can’t seem to release. Feelings like resentment, failure, anger or urges like addiction and cravings. Tibetan Buddhist, Pena Chodron, says that’s how we get taken over by a negative experience. A death of a family member takes me directly to Shenpa. I feel sad, so sad that I can think or feel nothing else.
The Tibetan Buddhist says that the best thing to do when we feel that way is to remove ourselves from the situation. Give ourselves some space. Take a walk and just be aware of what you are saying to yourself. Notice your thinking and come back to just being present. Keep on doing that and you will learn to live in the present more often.
Chodron says the negative feelings are really our ego. Once you realize that it’s your ego you can notice it, allow yourself to have the discomfort of suffering, then let it go allowing evolution to happen.
Change is inevitable, if we don’t learn to embrace it our life will be an unhappy one. I’ve always battled change. When I was little I didn’t want to grow up, I hated it when we moved and I had to change schools. I always fought it and even though I was always able to find my footing, I just hated change and I still do .Losing someone I love is the biggest and most painful change for me to endure. I now know that I have to learn to embrace change, be open to what God has in store for me.
In a blink of an eye our lives can change and it will continue to change for decades to come. We have to focus on the now. To enjoy it, embrace it and be grateful for the ride. Easier said then done for some but all we can do is try, otherwise happiness will elude us.